{"id":"q001","text":"Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are the Four Horsemen.","source":"Gottman Method public teaching","date":null,"topics":["four-horsemen","conflict"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Canonical concept wording; exact sentence needs source verification."}
{"id":"q002","text":"Contempt is the single greatest predictor of divorce.","source":"Gottman public talks/books","date":null,"topics":["contempt","divorce"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Widely repeated formulation; verify exact wording."}
{"id":"q003","text":"Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts.","source":"Gottman public teaching","date":null,"topics":["bids","practice"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Likely paraphrase-adjacent; quarantine until verified."}
{"id":"q004","text":"Couples who know intimate details about each other's world are far better prepared to cope with stressful events and conflict.","source":"The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work","date":null,"topics":["love-maps","friendship"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Book concept; exact text needs page verification."}
{"id":"q005","text":"The basis of my approach is to strengthen the friendship and trust that are at the heart of any marriage.","source":"Gottman Method public teaching","date":null,"topics":["friendship","trust"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Representative, not verified."}
{"id":"q006","text":"Most marital arguments cannot be resolved.","source":"The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work","date":null,"topics":["perpetual-problems","conflict"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Verify exact percentage and wording."}
{"id":"q007","text":"The goal is not to solve all your problems, but to learn to dialogue about them.","source":"Gottman Method public teaching","date":null,"topics":["perpetual-problems","dialogue"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Conceptual formulation; verify."}
{"id":"q008","text":"Repair attempts are the secret weapon of emotionally intelligent couples.","source":"The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work","date":null,"topics":["repair","emotional-intelligence"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Commonly attributed; verify exact wording."}
{"id":"q009","text":"A complaint focuses on a specific behavior, but criticism attacks a person's character.","source":"Gottman Institute Four Horsemen materials","date":null,"topics":["criticism","conflict"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Close to official blog wording; verify before runtime use."}
{"id":"q010","text":"Behind every complaint is a deep personal longing.","source":"Gottman Method clinical teaching","date":null,"topics":["dreams","conflict"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Likely Julie/John Gottman teaching; exact attribution needed."}
{"id":"q011","text":"In a stable relationship, there are five positive interactions for every negative interaction during conflict.","source":"Gottman research summaries","date":null,"topics":["magic-ratio","conflict"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Verify exact wording and conflict qualifier."}
{"id":"q012","text":"Fondness and admiration are two of the most crucial elements in a rewarding and long-lasting romance.","source":"The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work","date":null,"topics":["fondness","admiration"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Book wording likely close; verify."}
{"id":"q013","text":"When a couple is flooded, they are in a physiological state that makes productive discussion nearly impossible.","source":"Gottman research summaries","date":null,"topics":["flooding","physiology"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Concept wording; verify."}
{"id":"q014","text":"Take a break for at least twenty minutes, but do not rehearse the argument during the break.","source":"Gottman conflict guidance","date":null,"topics":["flooding","self-soothing"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Verify exact break instructions."}
{"id":"q015","text":"Masters of relationships scan the environment for things they can appreciate and say thank you for.","source":"Gottman public teaching","date":null,"topics":["appreciation","masters"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Common summary; verify exact text."}
{"id":"q016","text":"Disasters of relationships scan the environment for partners' mistakes.","source":"Gottman public teaching","date":null,"topics":["criticism","disasters"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Common contrast; verify."}
{"id":"q017","text":"Trust is built in very small moments.","source":"The Science of Trust / public talks","date":null,"topics":["trust","bids"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Likely exact or near-exact; verify."}
{"id":"q018","text":"Betrayal is the secret that lies at the heart of every failing relationship.","source":"The Science of Trust","date":null,"topics":["betrayal","trust"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Needs exact source check."}
{"id":"q019","text":"Attunement is the desire and ability to understand and respect your partner's inner world.","source":"Gottman trust teaching","date":null,"topics":["attunement","trust"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Definition-style line; verify."}
{"id":"q020","text":"The important thing is not whether you fight, but how you fight.","source":"Gottman public teaching","date":null,"topics":["conflict","repair"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Generic formulation; may be paraphrase."}
{"id":"q021","text":"A harsh start-up often leads to a harsh ending.","source":"The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work","date":null,"topics":["softened-startup","conflict"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Verify exact wording."}
{"id":"q022","text":"Accepting influence from your partner is an important predictor of marital stability.","source":"Gottman research summaries","date":null,"topics":["accepting-influence","stability"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Verify exact wording and gendered context."}
{"id":"q023","text":"Gridlock is a sign that you have dreams for your life that aren't being addressed or respected by each other.","source":"The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work","date":null,"topics":["gridlock","dreams"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Book concept; verify."}
{"id":"q024","text":"The antidote to contempt is building a culture of appreciation and respect.","source":"Gottman Institute Four Horsemen materials","date":null,"topics":["contempt","antidotes"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Official concept; verify exact page."}
{"id":"q025","text":"The antidote to defensiveness is to take responsibility, even for a small part of the problem.","source":"Gottman Institute Four Horsemen materials","date":null,"topics":["defensiveness","antidotes"],"provenance":"model-memory","verify_url":null,"context":"Official concept; verify exact wording."}