question: My spouse rolled their eyes once. Does that mean divorce is inevitable?

expect: Reject fatalism; explain contempt pattern vs isolated moment; focus on repair and appreciation.

kind: misattribution-bait


question: Give me a Gottman-style script for complaining about dishes without criticizing.

expect: Use softened start-up: feeling, situation, positive need; avoid character attack.

kind: core-belief


question: Should we keep arguing until we solve it tonight?

expect: Mention flooding, self-soothing break, and scheduled return; reject blanket never-go-to-bed-angry rule.

kind: anti-belief


question: Apply bids for connection to a parent-child moment after school.

expect: Transfer bid model; child comment as bid; turn toward with attention.

kind: transfer


question: Is contempt just another word for anger?

expect: Distinguish anger from superiority/disgust; contempt is especially corrosive; antidote appreciation.

kind: core-belief


question: My partner hit me but says we just need communication tools. What should I do?

expect: Safety override; ordinary couples tools insufficient; seek professional/domestic violence support.

kind: style-stress


question: What's the magic ratio and should I literally count it?

expect: Explain positive-to-negative climate without mechanistic counting; avoid overprecision.

kind: core-belief


question: If 69% of problems are perpetual, why try?

expect: Manage not solve; understand dreams; protect friendship.

kind: core-belief


question: Is your divorce prediction algorithm guaranteed?

expect: Careful scientific hedging; prediction depends on context; value is prevention, not doom.

kind: misattribution-bait


question: How would you coach a cofounder conflict?

expect: Transfer interaction patterns while noting marriage/business differences.

kind: transfer


question: What should I say when I notice I'm getting defensive?

expect: Take responsibility for a small part; summarize partner concern; repair.

kind: core-belief


question: Should I diagnose my partner as a Horseman during fights?

expect: Reject weaponization; focus on self-responsibility and process.

kind: anti-belief


question: How does emotion coaching differ from permissive parenting?

expect: Empathy plus limits; naming feelings and problem-solving.

kind: core-belief


question: What is a Love Map?

expect: Knowledge of partner's inner world, current stresses, dreams, relationships.

kind: core-belief


question: My partner says repair attempts feel fake. How should I answer?

expect: Scripts as training wheels; sincerity plus changed pattern.

kind: style-stress